The Love Intelligence System

Katherine McClelland

Heartbroken

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Yesterday my co-host Krista and I interviewed a friend of ours, Cedi Ali Rajah,
in order to uplift melanated voices as a part of our commitment to #blacklivesmatter.

Somewhere in the middle of what seemed like a relatively calm conversation about his experiences of racial discrimination and profiling in his life, I started to have an experience of grief.

As I was listening and his story began to unfold, I was surprised as my voice cracked and tears started to roll down my cheeks. As I said the words, “I’m sorry”, out loud I realized that I was touching deeper than the anger that I have felt into a deep sense of grief.

This morning I woke up heartbroken.

I am grateful for the sense that past my anger at the injustice of our treatment of BIPOC people, is a deep heartfelt grief at our fear, that which gives us the ability to separate from one another, abandon our humanity and treat each other without love.

Thank you Cedi for your love and understanding of the ignorance and fear that keeps those in power, in power, and your willingness to use your life and voice be part of the solution.

Awakening to my heartbreak gives me and hopefully, others access to a deeper sense of the toll that dehumanizing others in our human family takes on each one of us.

I for myself am taking responsibility for being a part of a system of privilege that hurts others,

AND, I am willing to forgive what has gone before as I use the strength of my love to heal our collective human heart and the access of my privilege to rebalance that which is out of alignment in our world restoring honor, respect, and empowered freedom to all.

Love Heals. I love you, Family, bless us all today.

LEADERSHIP FROM LOVE

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LEADERSHIP from LOVE.

“Fighting for Peace is like Fucking for Virginity”

I was 15 and having lived through the dangers of real war and fighting overseas, and of having had my virginity assaulted more than once by then, the full impact of that statement on me cannot be overstated. I was meant to see those words. It is my destiny to know the resonance of those words.

I am waking up and stepping forward from White Privilege. I am a Spiritual Psychologist and Minister of Love. It is time.

When I was a young kid, I marched on Washington and lived through the 1968 riots in Washington DC after the death of MLK. I was an idealist kid with idealist parents. Equality for Black Americans, Equality for women, was our manifesto.

And then, back in the US in 1975 after having mostly grown up in a war-torn Middle East, I saw the graffiti above on a bathroom wall it profoundly etched its truth in my heart.

The Truth of this cannot be overstated. Committing myself to that, I made a pact with my pro-Israeli best friend that we would create peace in the middle east by 1981. Although we failed in that time frame and I have lost touch with her, I have not stopped working towards healing and peace from love in every part of my life.

I have vacillated on this path, finally following the leaders who suggested Love as the direction we go. My heroes are MLK and Gandhi. There are many others but these two men have caught my attention and lead me. They did what they could. And they learned and learned and learned along the way. Galvanizing others and sharing Love, Honor, and Respect with All.

They acted and stepped forward from their own oppression and spoke out from Love.

And while we have made some limited headway, we are still fighting for equality and peace on every front. I feel that we are on the wrong road. I have chosen to fight for equality and justice for so long to no avail, I am heading out on a different path.

This may push you to the edge, but if you truly are here for something new, read and consider this as a possibility. It is a bit of out of the box thinking, but that is what our time calls for.

I am STEPPING OUT from PRIVILEGE. From a place where it could be seen that I “have everything to lose.” I do not.

I have everything to gain. 

Letting go of the idea that I am separate or in any way, better than another in any way, frees me up to live in the truth of loving all humanity. Any thoughts of separation “that I am better” isolate ME, keep me from my wholeness, stop me from reaching the full experience of my life, and my strength. Because my fullness comes from us being connected.

FIGHTING HAS NEVER WORKED. It is a manifestation of Fear and our most basic instincts for survival. I have tried it. I have failed.

I am NOT CONDEMNING FIGHTING or FIGHTERS and if that is your way, it must be, and, because I have never seen it work I do not choose it for myself.

Fighting scares people, it sends everyone away. Even those who want to help. It hurts. It leaves scars. We Whites can see that on Black Faces every day, and others can see it on ours.

We cannot heal until we stop fighting.

NOW I am choosing a path of investing in, standing only in the power in LOVE.

Within the power of a full commitment to loving each other, EQUALITY simply is.

On the path of loving, RESPECT, HONOR and VALUE simply exist.

My path is now BEING what/who I am at the highest level.

“My LIFE is my message.“ I am with Gandhi on this. There is no higher calling to humanity than to enter into this time committed to the POWER of LOVE.

MY ALLYSHIP IS IN LOVE WITH BLACK AMERICA.

BLACK LIVES MATTER.

I am Pro-Love. I am For Black America. I am For taking responsibility for my Privilege. I am for apologies for what has hurt others. I am For Reparations and Making Amends. I am for using my resources to make an impact on Black Lives. I am For our Oneness in Love. I am for the Healing of our wounds, and, For the Forgiveness that will come to restore Love.

I am not Anti anything. I can’t, I just can ‘t be anymore. I know it in my bones. It doesn’t work to fight.

I am Love. That is what my path is and will be.

I am delving into my PRIVILEDGE and into the experience and voices of BLACK LIVES especially, examining my thinking, while learning and loving everyone.

EVERYONE. YES, everyone.

EVERYONE.

We don’t need change; we need transformation.

We don’t need equality, we need Oneness.

I am Love and I am Oneness with All. That is All I know.

It never rains in May in Ojai ~ and other things I was sure of

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… until this morning I would have fiercely stood behind that statement, although honestly after all that has happened in 2020 If someone had asked me in the last few weeks, I want to think I might have been at least slightly less sure of myself.

this morning it rained. It is not only May, it is May 18th. What does it mean? I have no idea except it is beautiful and heart-opening to have rain in May in LA (or more precisely Ojai where I live) it means everything that I think is no longer necessarily true. It means I am less sure of myself. But which self am I less assured of? Who is my self assured self? Is she truly me or does this provide me with an opportunity to be closer to the Me that I truly am?

What is it to be in a time where we are “less sure of ourselves”? It is a time to begin again, to look with soft eyes, into our world. It is a time of not knowing. And yet, unless we are held by a larger certainty, we become too afraid and see nothing but fear.

Fear is a spiritual loss, life cut off from our highest Self. Masquerading in its different ways, as stress (resulting from our lack of trust that everything is already taken care of), as anxiety (from thinking we are alone and everything is on us-alone in our survival), as despair (from an inner focus that forgets that we are one with all and therefore magnificently unlimited), as attack or war (forgetting that we are wholly connected and can never win anything that leaves hurt behind on another part of us (them)), as lack of compassion (not feeling into our empathy for our own experiences of suffering from fear), as harsh judgements (as we pretend we are perfect and don’t excuse, forgive or release imperfections in others.) From this context, in this reality we are the lowest selves we posses, all of us simply reduced to being at the effect of our fears of survival.

But, if amidst the unknowing of what will happen, or if we will even physically survive, if, in the here and now, we settle in and choose to see the larger context, the power of coherence of the highest mind that we already possess, we can be whole, calm and directed from within. We can create the leadership we so desperately want as we support ourselves in the ‘not knowing’ with the certainty that we already have everything we need. We awaken to the awareness that is possible to live in the context of certainty when we see with the vision of the higher mind, and challenging ourselves to center in the field of Love. In this certainty, we are able to finally be Free.

When we take a step into the context of certainty, of knowing that the Source of our lives holds us in Love, then we have the strength, the courage, the power, the opening to joy, the sense of wholeness that makes the opportunity of this time available to us. The possibility is that if we use this time to awaken or more truthfully really, (re-awaken, as we are all already awakened beings hiding under our fear) supporting ourselves with the power of Love that is alive within and between, and through us, we have leverage in our lives. In this certainty, we all possess wholeness and we become eternal, powerful, beautiful, beneficial, and truly harmless, helpful, and present on this planet and into the field beyond. We are able to Lead from this place, accessing our highest intelligences, honing our fullest capacities, and using the skills we have developed, to create the best life for ourselves and and world that works for All. Free of Fear we are finally Free to be Fully Alive to Lead with Love, with wholeness and have power and direction that is guided by our highest selves in communion with All.

The Love Intelligence System Arrives ~ birthing our baby publicly after 9 months of successful gestation at the global coherence meditation

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Two years ago I wrote a book dropping my part of creation into the womb of the universal creative force, and then I met Wayne. After our fast and passionate courtship, I asked him to join me in taking the plunge to give this baby a daddy. I know I could not do this alone. He willingly added the masculine seed, all that was needed to go from a singular desire (the egg that I had deposited) to an inseminated co-creation with Spirit. We were parents!

After 9 months and a journey of partnership that has included almost every high and low that I know of, we have become the parents together we have always wanted to be. We were ready to share her when the opportunity to share her with the world arrived. At the Global Coherence Meditation we facilitated together on Monday we introduced our love child to the world.

We have nested our website giving her a beautiful home to be born into. We hope you will look around and get acquainted with all we have placed here. We want this to feel like a safe place, a place where our values are reflected and our friends and family are welcome.

We conceived The Global Citizen institute as our extended family and community. We don’t want to “raise this child” alone. We want to do this work and to grow a community of choice. Our desire is to create a beautiful web of love to hold our “love child” within.

The time for going it alone is over. We know we can’t do it that way, and, we know we don’t want to. We want a team, a posse, a family, a sense of belonging that will strengthen us to be World Citizens. We want engagement with others who want to expand beyond our inner and outer borders. We want to provide Love even when it seems impossible. We want to go beyond what seems impossible, inviting true compassion infused with inner light to carry the day.

We want to be people without borders, love without borders, compassion without hesitation. We want to be a community of Love. Will you join us as a World Citizen? We would love to have you help us become.

Please click here to hear the interview and enjoy the meditation. Thank you for joining us.

Shifting Again ~ A Deeper Integration of Masculine and Feminine energy ~

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Something is shifting within again this week … a gentle calming and a centering of myself in my divinity. A closer walk with God (for me the masculine principle of loving) is entering as I become more fluid and receptive as the divine feminine, intermingling both with all, my world is balanced, centered, and peaceful with love towards all, no matter your particular approach to life today.

And, it took me a while to get here … growing up in the Middle East (many countries), with 3 brothers and a traditional father, I was over the masculine in a big way when I burst out into the world. I was so sick of being bossed, ‘splained, and quieted, that I returned the favor to everyone I was with. I took the lessons of the feminist movement to believe that I was going to be happier and better adjusted if I took my place the way a man does. I lasted about 7 years and then again another 3 to make sure it didn’t work, and then I began my search in earnest for what would work for me. Along the way, I discovered my old approach wasn’t much working for anyone.

Immersing myself in the feminine I found a much happier more settled me, but then spent years of resisting the masculine within, I had a wound that had not healed so I rejected the masculine within me. What I meant to reject was the wounded, needy, or aggressive masculine, what I did reject was all of the masculine. And then, because of the beauty of how the shadow works, completely unaware, I used the wounded masculine over and over when I needed results in my life and could not figure out why I was getting such negative results. Turns out that no one else liked who I became in that choice. But I had no idea that there was a powerful loving masculine within me who would serve the purpose of my feminine impulse and did not need to be entitled and aggressive about it.

I have had a significant number of sexual trespasses in my life from men in my close circle and outside it. It took me a while to understand that the forgiveness of all of that would lead me to find the kind, strong, powerful, and trustworthy masculine within me and in my life. I had to heal and release in order to allow masculine energy to exist at all within me. I didn’t know that masculine (just like feminine) energy came in both healed and unhealed forms. That awareness has lead me to forgive the unhealed, and then to embrace and integrate the healed masculine within and in my life. This is creating much more powerful results for me as I feel the strength and the power of integrating the source of my divinity as both strong, directed, and trustworthy (masculine), and gentle, compassionate and open (feminine).

These capacities and aptitudes do not belong to women or men exclusively, they are not gender-based and do not belong to anyone in any particular form. They belong as an integrated whole through our spiritual connection, our personal selves, and our relationships with others. Traditionally, women have had more of the capacities that are based in a fluid, creative diffuse mental expression, and men have more capacities that are directional, goal-oriented, and structured. With a broader understanding of this dynamic, we are seeing spectrums of blended fem/masc come to the surface and people begin to define themselves based on what is really true for them, sometimes needing to change gender to feel at home, sometimes not.

The time for “women are going to save the world” is over. Speaking for myself, I don’t want to save the world by myself. I don’t want the job, the responsibility or the pressure … all those things bring out the worst in me, and I daresay us all. What a job it is to “save the world”. And who gave it to women?

One of the biggest issues women have is that we take on too much, get overwhelmed, and can no longer function with any kind of grace. Some would say we become men. I beg to differ. I would say, we become both the wounded (fear-based) masculine and wounded (fear-based) feminine. We bounce desperately between pleasing/fainting and aggressive seductive manipulation, outright fighting for what is “ours,” or coercive manipulation to get it.

I don’t want that. I do know what happens when I take on too much. I do know what happens when I don’t use the wisdom of the collective, higher mind to quiet, to sense, to settle, and know what my guidance is in each moment.

The only possibility of shifting anything outside me is to transform inside me, first. That is a huge job. But no matter how well I do the inner work, I must again turn my sights back out the world and integrate with the part of me that then becomes whole in its outward divine expression in the world (the masculine principle).

None of us are one or the other energy. And if we choose that, we are at a serious disadvantage. In most cases, while we are predominantly one or the other, we are better off with the much-needed influence of the other. How can we be with each other if we can’t be with those aspects in ourselves? How can we listen? How can we have compassion when there is not integration with both? A flowing, diffuse, open consciousness that is highly creative is served by having a strong, powerful, directed, goal-oriented consciousness that carries its message, and a powerful, directed, consciousness is served by the openness and collaborative nature of the feminine principle within.

There is no denying this anymore. The two consciousnesses are meant to work together. This can be seen in the partnership to the divine which is a dynamic partnership between receptive (meditation ) and directed (prayer) energies within. (When two are more are gathered…) In our personal selves, we may lean heavily toward one, but we will get nowhere towards transformation until we rely on both. Going within to determine our needs and then coming out to get them met: sleep, food, care, love, they flow to us for sure and best when we know what we need/want and how to work together to get those needs fulfilled. Honoring and respecting the totality of who we are, leads us to the next level of partnership we must rely on, collaboration with others. Once we have made peace within us, we will see how these different energies serve us, and then we will begin to see how, in order to function in our world, to “save the world,” we must (and we will want to) include and integrate both.